BPK 016: The Chronicles of NARIX

In this episode of BPK, we meet up with representatives of NARIX (North American Rope Innovation Exchange). NARIX is a tightly focused conference with the goal of bringing together the most dedicated rope lovers from across North America to share, learn, discuss, experiment, and explore the many facets of rope bondage and the rope bondage community.

Next NARIX conference is November 18-20, 2017 in Philadelphia, PA

Check out NARIX.org or NARIXHost !

For more info contact NARIX Director of Communications Cherise


BPK 015: SwingTowns.com – Let Your Freak Flag Fly

In this episode of BlackPeopleKink.com Podcast, we laugh it up with Swingtowns.com creator, Jay Love while discussing website origins, internet influences on swinging / kink and the future of polyamory.

BPK Summer 17′

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If you create the account within 30 days of the publishing of this broadcast (June 21, 2017), you will receive a free SwingTowns bumper sticker and be entered to win a SwingTowns Swag Bag!

SwingTowns Swag Bag Includes:
– SwingTowns “Sweet Emotions” Wine
– SwingTowns “Sexy AF” T-Shirt
– Edible massage oil candle

BPK 014: Cigars, Boots & Chocolate on the Porch

In the episode we take a field trip to a kink friendly event to a somewhat unusual location. Two fetlife groups- Cigar, Boots & Chocolate / Cigars on the Porch – teamed up to host a kink and cigar event at premium cigar lounge, Cigars International in PA.

Podcast Guests ( by FetLife profile when provided)






and James Cambino Asst Bar Manager for Cigars International

This podcast episode is dedicated in the memory of Action_Bastard. Gone too soon. (Rope shop mentioned in podcast Bastard_Ropes)


BPK 013: Becoming Kinky Friends with author Nicholas Tanek

While discussing Nicholas Tanek’s book Your Kinky Friends, we laugh, cry and reminisce cherished true kinky love.

Reach out to Nicholas Tanek on Twitter @NicholasTanek

BPK 012: A Lovely Chat with UK Author/Kinkster Catherine Scott

This episode we talk with British author of the popular book Thinking Kink: The Collision of BDSM, Feminism and Popular Culture, Catherine Scott.

Follow Catherine Scott on Twitter

Next, choose your sexual orientation from the drop down menu: an essay in the journey through sexual identification

baby j


Seventeen years ago, i came out as bi. To my ever so slight dismay, and still to this day, it was the most underwhelming reveal i had ever made. No shock, no awe, not even feigned horror or disgust. Just a simple smile, a “No you’re not,” and a pat on the head as my mom unceremoniously walked out of the room. Needless to say, i started my sexual journey off with a thoroughly confused fizzle.

i lost my virginity to a girl, soon to be trans guy, later that year (i was fortunate enough to see how much happier he was after starting his transition and coming out). The next time i had full on intercourse was three years later with my long-term, cisgendered boyfriend. He, coincidentally, gave me a soft introduction to kink and BDSM – though neither of us knew that at the time. Through the years i’ve had many different types of encounters and relationships with men and women, from the overtly sexual, to the intimate, tantric, and spiritual, and because of my multi-gendered attractions, i settled into this label of bisexuality. But there was always a little bit of a rub between me and the label. Somehow it didn’t quite fit.

i have had sex with more men than women overall, though not necessarily by design. Truth be told, i have enjoyed sex with women on the whole more than i have with men with one fantastically amazing exception (i Love You Dominus Blue). Men were both more accessible and acceptable. i am a fun, energetic, intelligent, pretty girl so finding guys to date or otherwise was never a problem. For some reason though, i didn’t have the same luck with women. i suppose i just didn’t know how to go about it.

The first girl i approached was quite receptive and we actually continued a semi-romantic and sexual relationship well into both of our respective first marriages. i had a couple drunken experiences with other women at parties and even hooked up with a girl on a spring break cruise, but nothing significant or lasting. The next several women i had sex with came by way of my exploits into swinger life through sites like SwingTowns.com, where you build somewhat of a dating profile in your search for like-minded sex lovers. i loved swinging. i could suddenly approach a whole new world full of freaky women.

But even on a sexually free swinger/lifestyle site, you still have to identify yourself as one of the listed sexual orientations. SwingTowns.com does give you a ton of choices though. Bisexual is my default because it’s easy and familiar, but to me, it is inaccurate. i don’t like men or women as a specific group, I just like who i like. i’ve tried other labels too – hetero and homoflexible, pansexual, omnisexual i contend is close. i can’t stand “queer,” i know other people love that identifier, but it makes me feel icky (that’s a technical term). And “other?” “C’mon man,” in my best Cris Carter voice. Nothing really fits me the way i want.

i am a lover of all things love and sex. My sexuality, and thereby my sexual orientation is so much broader than a checklist of whom i envision myself fucking. According to Roman Krznaric, a leading expert on empathy and social change, “the ancient Greeks [had] six words for love,” each of which had its own significance and connotation. Two of the words, eros and phelia spoke to me. Krznaric says that while phelia, brotherly love (think Philadelphia), was the most respected and coveted of the forms of love, eros, or uncontrolled sexual passion, was the most feared. The Greeks were concerned over its unwieldy nature. “Eros was viewed as a dangerous, fiery, and irrational form of love that could take hold of you and possess you,” Krznaric wrote. No wonder i am so attracted to that word.

i need passion and fire, but i also need friendship and camaraderie. i need the longing that exists in a single glance, and the love that grows over a lifetime. The who of my interaction is not as important as the how. So how do i identify? For now, i am coining erophilasexual (it’s not even googleable yet!). Those two Ancient Greek words seem to best encompass my orientation toward lascivious kinship and enamored desire. And since i’ll likely not see erophilasexual in the drop down menus of sex and dating sites anytime soon, i’d like to ask the web masters for one little favor – could you please add a type-your-own-response box to the list of sexual and gender identifiers? Because, for real, “other?” C’mon man!

BPK 011: Damn You’re Sexy..But What Race Are You, Eva Giunto?

This episode we have a steamy chat with the sex positive, “Race-Fluid” author and MILF, Eva Giunto. She talks about her adventures in sex, swinging, non-monogamy, open-relationships and race.

Check out Eva Giunto and her work!


Twitter: @forevagiunto

BPK 010: Race and Kink/BDSM

In this episode, we begin a discussion about the dynamics of race in the Kink/BDSM community.

Birth of a White Nation – Jaqueline Battalora, PhD

Eva Giunto – Columnist for Ravishly.com

Fascinating article asking Is the Swinger Community Racist?


BPK 009: Fetish Photographer Solomon Abrams

This episode babyj and I had the pleasure of chatting with Rope Top and fetish photographer Solomon Abrams about is work primarily featuring gorgeous women of color rope bottoms at UrbanAmericanGallery.com. During our interview, we talk about his take on this unique work in the world of kink and the inspiration for his photography. Say Cheese!

Contact Solomon Abrams and check out his work!

Twitter: @Urban_american

Website: Urban American Gallery

Instagram: #UrbanAmericanGallery

BPK 008: Black Pervert Documentary?

During the course of our research to find all things Colorful and Kinky, we happened upon an interesting project. The project, which began back in 2013, was a documentary entitled BLACK PERVERT which sought to chronicle the intersection of Kink in the lives of black folks from all walks of life. Apparently, it was intended to be a feature length film, but all we could find was a short snippet of the project to come. What happened? Was the movie ever finished? If not, why not? We had to know. Fortunately, we tracked down the producer for the project, TRUE, now living in New Orleans, LA and found out the rest of the story….


Contact info:


FetLife BlackPervertDoc